All of the people around us they say
Can they be that close
Just let me state for the record
We're giving love in a family dose
Andy shot the Superdad glare across the room at me the other night. A shiver went down my spine. Superdad glares are never good...
Why the glare? It seems Amy had succeeded in tripping me up in one of the oldest parent-child booby traps in the book: playing us against each other.
Like most parents I know, Andy and I have an unwritten rule. We've got each other's back. Fighting about any childrearing differences is a behind-the-scenes affair. It's the whole united we stand, divided we fall parental approach.
But Amy, she's a smart one. She targeted me at a moment of total weakness. I was busy answering e-mail number 10,122 when she sauntered into the office and asked ever so sweetly if she could have a sleepover with her brother.
"Sure ..." I mumbled as I hit send.
What she failed to mention, however, was that her dad had already given her the big N-O. And I hadn't checked to see if she had already asked her dad, which is standard operating procedure around our house.
To be honest, I really like it when they sleep together. It's sweet. I failed to see what the big deal was. But when Andy shed some light on the situation later, he explained that the reason Amy wanted to sleep with Jack wasn't really a noble, sweet, sisterly sort of thing.
Her motivation was fear. She was scared. She'd been watching too much Scooby Doo. And she did't want to sleep alone in her room. She wanted to be with someone...anyone....
The little guy across the hall in the dinosaur pajamas would do just fine.
Of course, Andy thought she needed to tough it out. (I know, I know ... he's right. Tougher is better.) But I felt the need to make an exception, which honestly is rare for me.
It felt good to me that in this case, for the first time ever ...
JACK COULD DO SOMETHING FOR AMY.
He needs that. She needs that.
Okay, who am I kidding..
I need that.
So when I explained that to my tough-love husband, it was an easy sell. He quickly and completely got it.
Amy and Jack had their sleepover. And in this case, the little brother in the dinosaur pajamas got to be the supportive sib for a change.
And we all had sweet, sweet dreams...
The Early Show on CBS completely got it this past week as well. Do yourself a favor and check out their piece on autism and its impact on siblings: